My Goal In Life Is To.....?

Did you ever have a problem writing down your goals?

I know the first time I tried to do this on paper, I had great difficulty doing it.

What is it I want? Hmmmm?????????

I really didn't know. I could only think of what I did not want. My mentors told me that was not good enough. I had to find the reason to become more, "I Needed to find my WHY".

That can be a nearly impossible to someone who has not been trained to dream. The reality of life for most people is that our education system, our peers, nearly everyone teaches you not to dream. Don't do this you could get hurt. Don't do that you could lose money. Specialize in your education and get a good job.

I had become a product of societal thinking.

"Every man is like the company he is wont to keep." Euripides

You might as well talk in a foreign tongue. My mind could not comprehend what to write down. There were lots of things I wanted but nothing got down to my core desire. I knew, "I want to be rich" was not good enough.

I thought maybe there was something wrong with my thinking. I told my mentors, "I know what I DON'T Want. Is That good enough?" "NO" was their answer.

Here to me is a key element in Success Coaching that most people miss. There is just as much Emotion and Desire in "Not Wanting" as what there is in "Wanting".

Goals are great, but it is a transition, a process that a person needs to go through. So when you are coaching your students, downline, children, whatever, make sure you let them go through this process.

"A successful person is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at him or her. " Psalms (ch. LXXV, v. 6)

If you know you you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, that can build enough emotion to make you take action. Following were some of my "Don't Wants". See if any of these sound like your thoughts.



I hated the fact my children were developing my bad habits, I don't want them to make the same mistakes.
I don't want to work to make someone else rich my whole life.
I don't want to live a life of mediocrity
I don't want to say things like, "I should Have" or "I could Have"
I don't want all my Glory Days behind me, in my past
I don't want my grandchildren to live a life of shattered dreams
I don't want my children to know a world of debt
I don't want to wonder if my life could have been different.
There were plenty, as you can see. These are just a few examples. I am sure that you have your own. Do they fill your with a PASSION to change your life?

Those "Don't Wants" were powerful to me and made me take Action to change my life.

Your comments are welcome


Have a Great and Wonderful Day!


Dan Brooks

http://www.mynewsuccess.com